The Influence of a Father

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The Influence of a Father "I thought you said your father never talks to you." "He doesn't. Except when we study Talmud" (Potok 116). Reb Saunders believes that the method of silence demonstrates the best way to raise his son. Danny grew up this way because of his father's experiences and beliefs. Raised differently than Danny, Reuven builds a strong relationship with his father. Both of the fathers also contain very contrasting views on Jewish religion. They hold different plans for their sons concerning their futures as well. Mr. Malter and Reb Saunders remain very wise and knowledgeable, but they vary when it comes to their religious beliefs, how they raise their sons, and what plans they expect for their sons in the future. First of all, Mr. Malter and Reb Saunders believe in the same religion, but they practice it differently. David Malter practices as an Orthodox Jew and Reb Saunders a Hasidic Jew. Reb Saunders proves to be a lot more strict and conservative than Mr. Malter. Although they both believe in the Jewish faith and maintain a spiritual dedication that they express to their sons, they act quite different from each other. They both study the Talmud with their sons often, but they grasp different interpretations on how they should live their lives. A strong follower of Zionism, David Malter explains to Reuven that "Some Jews say we should wait for God to send the Messiah. We cannot wait for God! We must make our own Messiah" (196). When Reuven mentions this at the Saunders dinner table, Reb Saunders disagrees with this idea because he believes in anti-Zionism. The fathers' disagreements on religious practices ultimately destroyed Reuven's and Danny's relationship, and kept the two fathers from ever associating. Also, both fathers raise their sons with different methods. Reuven and his father keep a very close relationship. They sustain excellent…...

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